Friend or foe?

It is a sad moment that in which we realise all efforts have been made in vain. That maybe it would have been simpler and less stressful to have given up on the battle, rather than struggle to the end of one's energy. Some battles are fought to be lost. Other battles will have no winners. My view is that relationships should not resemble battles.

In the neverending process of understanding and knowing someone else, having to bring out the troops is a dead-on signal that something is missing, or going the wrong way. I like to understand people, I like to know why they react in the way they do, what's going through their minds, why they say what they do and when they do it. An herculean task, no doubt, but it's just part of the way I chose to put the puzzle of the world together.

Some people, however, are bound never to be understood. And they don't really care. Maybe it's charm, but maybe it's just confusion. It starts to bother me though when this lack of care touches on indifference. Ironical to think that all these posts have a goal of looking at something other than ourselves and here it is, a post that states so clearly how hard it is to actually recognise the many people beside us, and thing about how they feel.

Before it gets too melodramatic or starts to sound like a plot for teen cable-TV, I'm making it practical.

Things that should be abolished, if possible, from relationships:
- Games
- Promises
- Expectations

Funny enough, games can lead to promises that generate expectations. So it would be incredibly easy to just stop playing games. Live it like it is - say what you mean, do what you're capable of and no more, no less.

But I guess it's too much to ask from those "charmers" who don't really care, who are way too busy plotting the next smart move to think about the consequences of the previous one. And then there's the people who think about others too much... and forget life only happens once.

Friendship is one type of relationship that should definitely be game-free. No doubt about it, true friendship is as scarce as a pink gummy bear; but just friendship - simple, fun, non-critical, with just the right amount of time spent together - seems to be getting more and more corrupted with the game virus.

I recently tried to be friends with someone. It looked like it shouldn't be hard. But then I guess miscommunication kicked in at some point and I missed (or misinterpreted) something. It was, and has been, a bitter sensation to feel the loss of something that maybe never existed (wow, yet another re-run feeling).

I do hope I'm wrong to think I'm not the friend he needs, or he's not the friend I want.